Henry Cloud

"Encourage literally came from 'in courage.' The courage is put 'into' you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves."

"When people are vulnerable to control, they feel that they are selfish for deciding what to do with their own property. In reality, deciding for ourselves is the only way we can ever have true love, for then we are giving freely."

"This is one of the marks of a truly safe person: they are confrontable."